I know, it’s a rather odd thing to be thinking about, but it’s been on my mind a lot lately. I just moved away from home into an apartment with two roommates who aren’t really home very much. I don’t have a lot of friends in my new hometown yet, so I’ve been spending a lot of time alone.
This has its pluses and minuses. Pluses, I can do pretty much what I want when I want. Minuses is after a while it gets lonely.
I’ve been thinking about how this relates to writing as well. At its heart, writing is a solitary activity. Me, the characters in my head, and my computer. No one else is involved until I get to the alpha reader stage. (Big shout out to my alpha readers, who are amazing! Thank you, Mom and Lauren!) So one would think that with all this time alone, I’d be a writing machine. It’s turned out to be a bit more complicated than that.
You see, being so much in control of my own time has taught me that my time management skills are really rusty. For the first time, I don’t have school or family commitments to worry about and manage my day around. Once I’m home from work, my time is mine, to do with as I please. I do have some commitments, mainly with my church and recently with LTUE. (I’ve joined the planning committee. I’m super excited about that!) But on the whole, my time is free to do with as I please.
Each Sunday, I sit down and plan out my week: what I need to do, some of the things I want to do, etc. And usually how it goes is Monday I’m pretty productive, Tuesday still pretty productive, and somewhere around Wednesday or Thursday my productivity gets shot so that by the weekend I’m scrambling to get caught up or things just don’t get done.
What I’ve discovered is because I’m alone so much and have so few outside commitments on my time, I rationalize that I’ll have time later to do things. Or I start to fill my time with fillers that are fun but aren’t really moving me toward my goals because I want to escape from day-to-day life or I feel like I’m too tired to do whatever more important things I had planned. Solitude right now is proving to be a huge hinderance to my writing, which is the exact opposite of what I thought would happen.
Then again, it’s happened this way before. Last school year, I had huge chunks of time where I was at home alone during the day and I expected to get a lot of writing and such done. Instead, I found myself surfing the net, playing video games, and generally doing things that, while fun, weren’t exactly the best use of my time.
So what is a writer to do? How can I use the fact that I have so much time on my hands because of my solitude to move me toward my goals instead of hindering them?
First off, I need to accept that my new reality is different from my old one and adjust accordingly. I may have more time in some ways, but I also have new responsibilities and new goals that can and should fill at least part of that time.
Second, I need to spread out my to do’s and my expectations a little more. Mondays tend to be super productive in part because over the weekend I get sick of the fact that I was so lazy and want to get back on track and get a lot done. Usually that means I don’t have too much play time on Mondays or Tuesdays, so I exhausted by Wednesday or Thursday and just want to collapse and do nothing. And I usually do, which leads to catching up/continued laziness through the weekend, and by Sunday I frustrated with myself, leading to Monday… You get the picture. So I think if I step back and don’t try to cram quite as many to do items into each day and allow some time to just relax and have fun I’d be more likely to actually stick with my plan for the week. Sure, I may not get everything done, but I’ll be more relaxed and happy throughout the week.
Third, notice my up and down times and use them accordingly. For example, after work I’m usually ready for a nap or to just chill for a while. Later in the evening, about 7 to 8 or so, I’m more awake and ready to tackle something. My brain insists, however, that after work is the time to tackle chores and writing and such, and later in the evening is for relaxing. I’m pretty sure that I need to tell that voice in my brain to shut up. I think for me, I would function better if I allowed myself time to relax and unwind or even take a nap after work. The trick is to set a timer or something and stop when it goes off, or I’ll have a day like yesterday where I was reading to unwind, and suddenly it was 6:30 and I hadn’t even started dinner yet. But if I set a timer, when the timer goes off it’s time to get up and make dinner or write or start on chores or something. Then when I’m more awake after dinner, I can do some of the things that take a little more brain power, like writing or budgeting or whatever.
Fourth, remember to be flexible, but also be prepared. And example of this is my last two Saturdays where a large chunk of the day was spent waiting for my car to be fixed. The first Saturday, I was expecting a short repair and so only came prepared with a book. The book was finished long before the repair was. I didn’t even have a notebook or anything so I could use that time to write. It was frustrating.
The second time I went, I took my laptop and was able to write in my journal (which is on my computer), work on my novel, and take care of some other things. This was a much better approach and one that I can use in other parts of my life. Life is going to happen and it’s going to throw things at me I’m not expecting. But if I’m prepared, then instead of being frustrating roadblocks, they can become time well used. I can start carrying a notebook to write in with me, for example. If I get stuck waiting somewhere, I can always write. I can learn to just let some things slide for the time being, knowing that when things settle down I can pick them back up again.
Anyway, those are just some random thoughts that have been rolling around in my brain. This is one of the things I love about writing. The very act of putting my thoughts on the page or screen lets me see more clearly and helps me understand what I should do and what I’m really worrying about. Hopefully my thoughts can help some of you as well!
Next blog post I’m going to talk about an idea that I was introduced to via the podcast Writing Excuses. So if you’d like to listen to the podcast that inspired this blog post, you can listen to it here. See you next time!